Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Sweet Mother's Day Quotes

  • The moment a child is born, the mother is also born.  She never existed before.  The woman existed, but the mother, never.  A mother is something absolutely new.  ~Rajnees 

  • God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers.  ~Jewish Proverbs

  • “Most of all the other beautiful things in life come by twos and threes by dozens and hundreds. Plenty of roses, stars, sunsets, rainbows, brothers, and sisters, aunts and cousins, but only one mother in the whole world.” -Kate Douglas Wiggin

  • “There is no way to be a perfect mother, and a million ways to be a good one” - Jill Churchill

  • Mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.- Erich Fromm, psychologist

  • “A mother understands what a child does not say.” -Jewish proverb

  • "Woman knows what man has long forgotten, that the ultimate economic and spiritual unit of any civilization is still the family. -Clare Boothe Luce

  • “A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” -Washington Irving

  • “When you were small and just a touch away, I covered you with blankets against the cold night air. But now that you are tall and out of reach, I fold my hands and cover you with prayer. Dona Maddux Cooper

  • 'The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.' ~ Honore de Balzac

  • 'A mighty power and stronger Man from his throne has hurled,For the hand that rocks the cradle Is the hand that rules the world.'~ William Ross Wallace

Thursday, April 25, 2013

Working After Baby

Will you or someone you know be returning to work after taking some time off to be at home with the kids? Many women worry about their skills still being relevant and finding a way to juggle work as well as all the new responsibilities that come with motherhood.

Good news is that with the right attitude and mindset returning to work can be a smooth transition. Here is some advice that you might find helpful when returning to the workforce.

1. "What is MY plan?" Try not to focus on what other women are doing. Every family and household is different take a "personal inventory of what they want and expect from their careers before launching their job search."

2. "What are your Objectives?" Staying clear on objectives enables mothers to ask specifically for what they need and expect from an employer.

3.  "Keep realistic goals" The notion of the perfect mom, CEO, good cook and Sunday schoolteacher is unrealistic.”

4. "Can do and Will do" More employers are now focusing more on candidate's personality and attitude.  Employers are looking for employees that are motivated and can successfully correlate their skills with the demands of the job. 

5. Own your career “gap.” Don’t try to hide your time away from the workforce; explaining your absence will eliminate any ambiguity, says Woods.

6. Restructure your resume. List  key accomplishments on page one and chronological experience on page two.
7. Role-play your interviews. Practicing interview questions and why you have decided to come back to work will help you perform better and nail your key messages. 
8. Keep current with your industry/former company. Stay in touch with your employer, coworkers and prior managers during your opt-out time and follow what’s happening.


Tuesday, April 23, 2013

How To Motivate Your Kids To Help With Chores

I like hugs and I like kisses,
But what I really love is help with the dishes!


When it comes to doing chores it is important to get your kids motivated with age-appropriate chores. Here are some tips and tricks to getting more help around the house

1. Use Chores to Teach Life Skills
"When kids do chores, they’re learning responsibility. They’re learning that life requires work," says James Sears, MD, co-author of Father’s First Steps: 25 Things Every Dad Should Know. For kids, chores are more than helping out; they are lessons in basic life skills. By loading the dishwasher, mowing the grass, or doing their laundry, "kids learn how the world works," Sears tells WebMD.

Make Chores Predictable
To take the sting out of chores, Turner suggests setting aside a time each week when the whole family does chores, Saturday morning from 8 to 9 for example. "Then you don’t get into battles about when chores get done." Having the whole family do chores at the same time also helps. "Your kid knows that every Saturday morning, this is what the family does," says Turner.

Assign Chores by Age 
Tasks that are clearly over your child’s head will make chore time dreadful for everyone. The following suggestions can get you started on assigning age-appropriate chores. Then it’s your turn to get creative.
  • 4 and 5 years old: Sort socks, put away toys, help set the table, stack magazines.
  • 6 and 7 years old: Take the dog for a walk, empty the dishwasher, prepare lunch, make the bed.
  • 8 and 9 years old: Set the table, load the dishwasher, clean the bathroom sink, feed, brush, and bathe the pet.
  • 10 and 11 years old: Put away groceries, run the dishwasher, fold laundry, take out trash.
  • 12 and 13: Do laundry and put it away, change sheets, mow the grass, make simple meals, clean the shower and toilet.
Make Chores Personal
Cleaning his own room will make a lot more sense to your son than having to clean his sister’s room. "Personalizing it is important because you’re teaching your child self-reliance and how to take care of himself," Turner tells WebMD. The rewards will be obvious: your son gets to spend time in a tidy room where everything is put away and easy to find. 

Add Variety to Chore Time
You might set up a system of rotation, or you might have your children draw cards to see which chores they have that week. Either way, it’s a good idea to rotate chores rather than make kids do the same ones all the time. Your children will become competent in several different areas, and you can avoid charges of favoritism.
Make Chores Visual
Some chores need to be done every day. Others are once-a-week tasks. Sears and his wife posted a magnetic chart on the refrigerator to help their kids keep track. "There was a column for each day of the week and the chores each kid was responsible for that week," says Sears. The whole family could see the chores and which ones had been completed. "Because it was visual, it was less overwhelming for the kids," he says.
If your child is inspired by technology, you might check out some of the apps that track chores assigned and completed on mobile phones and tablets. Some have features that randomly assign chores. Some assign points for completed chores. All employ technology as a tool rather than an escape mechanism.
Be Realistic About Chores
While you can and should make it clear ahead of time what counts as a completed chore, you might also need to relax your standards, especially with young children. If your daughter knows you sneak into her room to straighten the bed after she made it, she might as well leave it for you to do. Praise will help build your child’s confidence and make chore time smoother in the future.
Work through Chore-Related Whining
Some parents enforce a 2-for-1 policy when kids whine about chores. "It there’s whining and complaining, the child gets another chore in addition to the one they’re already doing," says Sears. "Usually the child learns pretty quickly that whining doesn’t work."
Listen to Your Child
Withstanding whining does not mean turning a deaf ear to your child. "If a child says, ‘This is too hard for me,’ you might say, ‘OK, let me help you,’" suggests Turner. Your child still does the chore, but with your assistance. The message is that you are in this together, so your child is less likely to equate chores with punishment.
In his own household, Sears listened to his son’s repeated requests for pancakes, followed by complaints that he didn’t know how to make them himself. Eventually, the father turned his son’s requests into a new skill. "He whined and moaned through a few pancake sessions but now he knows how to make them," says Sears.


Monday, April 22, 2013

Cleaning Secrets You Never Knew


1. Dusting. Get it wet. While your grandmother may disagree, damp cloths will always do a better job at dusting than dry ones will. A slightly moist cloth attracts and traps dust, while a dry one simply pushes it around.

2. Removing Pet Hair. Sprinkling baking soda over rugs helps loosen pet hair. Let a light coat of baking soda sit just a bit, and then vacuum. It deodorizes as well!

3.  Removing Red Wine Stains. Pretreat fabric with shaving cream, work into stain. Place in washing machine, using hot or warm water.

4. Carpet Odor. If you have pets or smoke indoors, keep carpeting fresh-smelling with baking soda. Just sprinkle baking soda liberally on the carpet, and let it stand overnight.

5. Microwave Cleaning.  Place a handful of wet paper towels inside and run on high for 3-5 minutes. The steam from the towels will soften the grime, once the paper towels are cool enough use them to wipe microwave's interior. 

6.  Cleaning cast-iron pan. Rub with a few tablespoons of salt and paper towel then rinse. Replenish the oil film by coating the inside surface with a dab of cooking oil.

7. Disinfect garbage disposal.  Deep clean and deodorize a waste disposal unit by grinding ice cubes made with half vinegar, half water. 
8. Mildew Cleaning.  Wash the surface with a solution of bleach 25 percent in water with a bit of detergent. The bleach will kill the mildew and the detergent will wash it off. Wet the surface with the solution, let sit for about five minutes, then rinse.

9. Vinyl Flooring. Dissolve small quantities of household bleach, isopropyl alcohol, or oxalic acid into two cups of water. Be sure to test the chemical on a small piece of the vinyl floor.

10. Bad smell in your kitchen. Simply purchase two or three lemons from your grocery store and cut them in half. One by one, throw them into your garbage disposal and allow them to be ground up; they will release their scent and the rinds will help remove any built-up gunk on the disposal blades.

When Life Gives You Lemons, Clean!

5 Natural Cleaners- Save The Earth and Some Money
Baking Soda & Vinegar- Freshen a room, neutralize odors, clean windows, and dissolve dirt and grease on kitchen cabinets with some hot water and vinegar. Baking Soda can be used to absorb odors around the house and clean areas such as bathtubs.

Lemon Juice- The windows in your home can be effectively cleaned with 4 tablespoons lemon juice mixed with a half gallon of water.Diluted lemon juice not only cleans stains from cutting boards, but helps kill germs as well. Rub the juice full strength onto the stain and let sit until the stain fades. 

Olive Oil- Repair scratches on leather furniture: Pour a very small amount of oil onto a cotton cotton cloth and rub it into the scratched leather furniture in a light circular motion. Polish wood furniture: Combine 2 cups olive oil with 1 cup lemon juice or vinegar. Work the mixture into the furniture with a soft cloth. To smooth out scratches in light-colored wood, rub them with a solution of equal parts olive or vegetable oil and lemon juice.

Spilled salt 
Salt- Clean oven spills with a mixture of mostly salt and a dash of cinnamon. Keep this mixture on hand so that you can cover spills (both inside and stove top) as soon as they happen. The salt will absorb the liquid and both salt and cinnamon will fight any odors. Wait to cool completely before wiping away with water. Buff and brighten your cutting boards once in a while after using them. Just rub with a damp washcloth dipped in salt.

Rubbing Alcohol- The next time you see fruit flies hovering in the kitchen, get out a fine-misting spray bottle and fill it with rubbing alcohol. Spraying the little flies knocks them out and makes them fall to the floor, where you can sweep them up. The alcohol is less effective than insecticide, but it’s a lot safer than spraying poison around your kitchen.

Home - A Place Where You Want To Be 

Cleaning... the dreaded task we all have to complete, whether it's spring cleaning or just your regular unload-the-dishwasher-for-the-fifth-time-today cleaning.You're not the only one who finds cleaning to be less than thrilling.

In today's busy world, most people do not have the time -- not to mention the energy -- to keep up with their house work. A housekeeper is the answer for many otherwise-occupied professionals or even overwhelmed and stressed out mothers who just need a break!

At Household Staffing we have background screened professional housekeepers, who take care of household tasks from cleaning and laundry to running errands and cooking. If you are on a tight budget and cannot hire a full-time housekeeper, we have qualified professionals that will work part-time. Our housekeepers through experience and training have obtained the skills to help maintain cleanliness and make the residence inviting and comfortable for both the residents and visitors.

Wouldn't it be nice to be able to keep your most precious environment clean, neat, and tidy? Household Staffing will connect you with the right person that meets YOUR needs. You do not have to waste your valuable time looking through endless pages of profiles or doing interviews to find the right candidate because we do the work for you, happily! The person we place in your home will perform all regular cleaning tasks like vacuuming, washing floors, dusting, laundry, and cleaning bathrooms and kitchens, and they also take on some of the more occasional tasks such as cleaning ovens or refrigerators, organizing closets, and washing windows.

Hiring a housekeeper who is reliable, hard working, and most importantly SAFE, can be a wise investment in one's comfort and sanity. Hire Household Staffing for your domestic needs and you will no longer be embarrassed by a messy or dirty home or stressed over the household cleaning that you simply do not have the time to tackle.  Call us today and you will no longer have to spend your every waking hour juggling laundry, dishes, kids, errands, -- well the list goes on......

"My idea of housework is to sweep the room with a glance."—Erma Bombeck

Thursday, April 18, 2013

Dear, Stressed Out Mother

These are some difficult days, we know. There is a load of laundry to do, dishes to clean, dinner to cook, baby screaming in the background and always a diaper to change - you are feeling a tad bit ...well...overwhelmed. You sigh and wonder if there is anyone who understands how you feel. On top of it all, in today's society many women tend to internalize the impossible-to-achieve image of a "perfect mother".

There is hope! At Household Staffing we UNDERSTAND how you feel and we want you to know that it is OK to take a break, actually it is healthy for you and your family. A recent study from the Journal of Pediatric Psychology found that stressed- out mothers are more likely to view their children as temperamentally difficult. Past studies have also suggested that extremely high levels of maternal stress are also related to children exhibiting poor behavioral tendencies. Built-up stress can also cause long-term health problems, including depression and anxiety, which clearly is not a desirable emotional state.

Here are five signs your stress level might be getting the best of you:
  • You frequently feel frustrated and cranky, even about the little things.
  • You experience chronic feelings of guilt and self-doubt.
  • You feel like you’re just going through the motions of your day.
  • You tend to feel tired and unmotivated.
  • You have repeated physical symptoms such as headaches and insomnia, as well as other sleep-related difficulties. 
So what can you do when your stress level builds up and your life seems to be spinning out of control?

First thing to do is GET HELP- it is okay to have someone come in for a day and help you with some errands, kids, chores, etc. Do not neglect yourself!

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Searching For Super Nanny

 If you're looking at licensed childcare facilities, chances are that the city or state has run background checks on caregivers for you. But if you're hiring a babysitter or nanny to watch your child in your home, you'll need to play the detective. It may seem strange to investigate someone who you hope will become almost as close to you as a family member. But even though it's expensive and time-consuming, the security you'll gain from having your questions answered will set the stage for a much better working relationship -- and help ensure the safety of your child.

Trust The Experts:

Using an agency will make the hiring process smoother and safer. There are many reasons why a nanny agency can greatly benefit you. 

• The best and brightest nannies are not trolling the want ads or posting their profiles on job boards.  Nanny Agencies are networked with the highest caliber and experienced nannies.

• Access to professional nannies. The best nannies choose this profession because it's their calling. 

• Online Nanny Job Boards do not prescreen their submission. Literally anyone with a computer can post a nanny profile. There is a tremendous risk involved in contacting strangers.

• Nanny Placement agencies prescreen all of their applicants prior to submitting candidates to families. 

• In-depth interviews and candidate assessment.

Background checks. Typically a state and criminal background check, job history, driver's license, social security verification. 

• Experienced Nanny Placement specialists who are intuitive and skilled at "reading between the lines" to carefully matching your family's needs with the right candidate in terms of competencies, personality and parenting philosophy.

• Low Turn-over. Families that utilize a Nanny Placement Agency experience an astonishingly lower rate of employee turnover. 

• Tremendous Time Saver. With dedicated staff, a nanny placement agency can move faster than you can squeeze a candidate search and screening process in between work, family, household responsibilities, and other commitments.

• Coverage of contingencies:If your staff is ill or on a planned vacation, many agencies offer coverage so your family schedule and commitments are not interrupted.

• Most nanny placement agencies offer a placement guarantee

Peace of mind. You can't put a price on that.

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

How To Talk To Kids About Tragedies In The Media


It is almost impossible to prevent your children and teens from seeing the disturbing images and stories on the media and on TV when tragedy strikes. These events can cause fear and anxiety in children and teens and as parents we need to be very diligent to what is going around in our kid's environment and during TV time. As parents it is imperative that we communicate with our children before they hear about certain events from classmates or other outside sources.

Children may be worry:
  • that the event could happen to themselves or a loved one;
  • that they could be separated from someone they love or be left alone;
  • about their safety or that of their loved ones.
Depending on your child's age and level of maturity it is important to be uncomplicated in your explanations without going into gory details (especially children under 9 years of age). Make sure to be supportive and reassuring during your explanation and always encourage open discussions.

Discussion Techniques:
  • Be truthful – Children need to understand what is happening around them to feel secure. Provide them with facts about what happened and acknowledge it was a terrible and frightening event. Help them to see that we share their feelings.
  • Encourage any questions – Ensure your child feels as though they can approach you to ask questions as much as they need. Sometimes a child will process a tragic event much later and come back to you again for more discussion. Remind them that questions are welcome.
  • Feelings are normal – Some children may take a while to get over tragic events and that is perfectly normal. Allow them to cry if they need to and show their emotions. Share your feelings about what happened with them. Help your kids to verbalize their feelings with you. Secure them with a warm cuddle and remind them that they are safe. Keep things in perspective and remind them that not all people are harmful towards others.
The content of these dicussions with your children depends on their age but here are some tips gathered from the Child Development Institute:

  • Ensure they feel safe – explain to them that it is a real misfortune what has happened and that we all feel for those people who were there or are experiencing pain.
  • Stay close by and show affection as they desire – give them a hug and reassure them that their world is safe. Keep them among familiar things until they’re feeling more secure, for example family and friends.
  • Allow the children to talk about it and how it has made them feel. Honestly answer their questions and try to put their minds at ease. By not talking about it may make them think it is taboo.
  • Be watchful for behavioral changes – kids who are behaving differently, such as not sleeping at night, feel frightened, don’t want mum to go to work, they want to start sleeping in with you may need some more reassurance, time and talking. If it continues it might be time to seek professional help.
  • For teens – talk with them, listen and ask questions. Stabilise the subject by asking “What are your friends saying about it? How are you feeling?” Make sure they’re receiving the true facts. Tell them you’re there for them.